Tuesday 24 May 2016

Relationship Success Tip #6 - The Love Quotient - Love Making Checklist - Nicholas J Alexander










If you have issues with the level of lovemaking or the type of lovemaking sit down and ask yourselves the following questions:

The Love Quotient - Lovemaking Check-list:
  1. Do we make time to connect?
  2. Do we go to bed in time to be awake enough to make love?
  3. Do we have enough time apart from the children, just as a couple to do stuff? (If applicable)
  4. Do we romance each other?
  5. Have we kept ourselves attractive and appealing?
  6. Do we keep lovemaking fresh and exciting?
The answers to most love making challenges and lack of frequency are because many of the above considerations are forgotten, broken or neglected, fix these things and you should see things start to improve.

https://books.google.co.uk/books?id=tAlNCAAAQBAJ&dq=the+love+quotient+book&source=gbs_navlinks_s

http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/love-quotient-a-handbook-for-successful-relationships-nicholas-j-alexander/1118760492

https://www.bookdepository.com/Love-Quotient-Handbook-for-Successful-Relationships-Nicholas-J-Alexander/9781291732184

http://www.ebookshop.co.za/ebooks/1638483/Love-Quotient-A-Handbook-for-Successful-Relationships.html

http://www.lulu.com/shop/nicholas-j-alexander/love-quotient-a-handbook-for-successful-relationships/ebook/product-21443989.html

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Love-Quotient-Handbook-Successful-Relationships-ebook/dp/B00OY7SZ6G/ref=sr_1_4?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1462794552&sr=1-4&keywords=the+love+quotient

https://www.bol.com/nl/p/love-quotient-a-handbook/9200000025777941/

https://www.tradebit.com/filedetail.php/278275234-love-quotient-a-handbook-for-successful

Relationship Success Tip #5 - Make Love - Nicholas J Alexander

Keep making love, be impulsive, be considerate, be interesting and be energetic. 

Make love with your minds, bodies and senses, the experiences will be amazing.



Don't use making love as a weapon; don’t withhold it for any reasons that are emotional or related to punishment, it just builds up resentment.

Monday 16 May 2016

Relationship Success Tip #4 - Relationship Acid Test - Nicholas J Alexander

The objective of this exercise is to write down, without too much deliberation, the answers to four questions. Ideally you need to capture the first things that spring to mind immediately after you have read the question. The total exercise should take between 20 minutes & 40 minutes. 

So here we go four questions taken twice and with a maximum of three minutes taken per question.
  1. What are the five most important values you personally want in your life? For example, they might be religion, being charitable, being career driven, having a big family, travelling etc.
  2. What are the five most important things that you value and need from a partner? For example, they might be, being affectionate, successful, kind, honest, intelligent etc.
  3. What are the five things that you don’t really like about your partner? Now ideally these won’t be physical characteristics that you dislike, that can only be changed with surgery. For example, it could be that they are not engaged in the parenting enough or they are too strict with the children. They never sort the DIY in the house or never cook a home cooked meal. It could be the fact that they were in good shape and of good weight and now they are not or that they were career driven and successful but have become unambitious and or lazy. They may play too much golf. Surf porn on the internet etc.
  4. What are the five things you most love about your partner?For example, when I come home from a business trip he has run hot bath for me, the surprise romantic dinners she makes on any day of the week, he is a great Father to the children; he respects the fact that I work and have a job and helps me with the children and the house work. She is ambitious and career driven.
The real test now comes when you attempt to answer the four questions on behalf of your partner as it is about their values and objectives and what they think of you etc.
  1. What are the five most important values your partner personally wants in their life?
  2. What are the five most important things that your partner values and need from their partner/you?
  3. What are the five things that your partner does not really like about you?
  4. What are the five things your partner most loves about you?
The whole premise of this acid test piece is that it is actually a really good exercise to conduct with your partner whilst together, although uncomfortable at times, reversing the questions and answering them for yourself and then about yourself on behalf of one another is a really good activity. If it is done properly it can be a very constructive and positive process.

I do however expect that you may be shocked at some or all of the areas that you have disconnects. People don't communicate the bad stuff and I really don't understand why? How can you affect changes or improvements to your relationship if the problems are not discussed? Without the facts you are simply not able to make a conscious effort to fix the problems. If these problems are not fixed they can open your relationship up to the risk of deep seated issues taking a foot hold and then resentment developing.

I do wonder if sometimes people become infatuated with being in love and perhaps they are scared of being alone. For some this is so true that they will go to great lengths to find a companion and then find any reasonable reason to be in love. This happens especially if the reward sought out, is the short term boost you get from that feeling of being in love. Love is a very complicated human matter and should not be taken lightly, nor should it be neglected. Take care of your love and it will take care of you and of your relationships. Love is one of the most powerful and incredible emotion that we feel, treat it with respect and revere its immense power over our lives.

https://books.google.co.uk/books?id=tAlNCAAAQBAJ&dq=the+love+quotient+book&source=gbs_navlinks_s

http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/love-quotient-a-handbook-for-successful-relationships-nicholas-j-alexander/1118760492

https://www.bookdepository.com/Love-Quotient-Handbook-for-Successful-Relationships-Nicholas-J-Alexander/9781291732184

http://www.ebookshop.co.za/ebooks/1638483/Love-Quotient-A-Handbook-for-Successful-Relationships.html

http://www.lulu.com/shop/nicholas-j-alexander/love-quotient-a-handbook-for-successful-relationships/ebook/product-21443989.html

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Love-Quotient-Handbook-Successful-Relationships-ebook/dp/B00OY7SZ6G/ref=sr_1_4?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1462794552&sr=1-4&keywords=the+love+quotient

https://www.bol.com/nl/p/love-quotient-a-handbook/9200000025777941/

https://www.tradebit.com/filedetail.php/278275234-love-quotient-a-handbook-for-successful

Friday 13 May 2016

Relationship Success Tip #3 - Romanticise - Nicholas J Alexander















Romanticise - Love Quotient - Relationship Success Tip #3

Whether you are splashing out on the best suite in a hotel, booking your partner a special spa weekend, choosing a special couples holiday or simply cleaning up the dog poo, the long and short of relationship retention is anchored with romance, don't let it slip away from you. 

Keep writing love letters and notes; make an effort for special occasions, especially your anniversary and respective birthdays. If you succeed in doing this, you will already be a success together.

https://books.google.co.uk/books?id=tAlNCAAAQBAJ&dq=the+love+quotient+book&source=gbs_navlinks_s

http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/love-quotient-a-handbook-for-successful-relationships-nicholas-j-alexander/1118760492

https://www.bookdepository.com/Love-Quotient-Handbook-for-Successful-Relationships-Nicholas-J-Alexander/9781291732184

http://www.ebookshop.co.za/ebooks/1638483/Love-Quotient-A-Handbook-for-Successful-Relationships.html

http://www.lulu.com/shop/nicholas-j-alexander/love-quotient-a-handbook-for-successful-relationships/ebook/product-21443989.html

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Love-Quotient-Handbook-Successful-Relationships-ebook/dp/B00OY7SZ6G/ref=sr_1_4?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1462794552&sr=1-4&keywords=the+love+quotient

https://www.bol.com/nl/p/love-quotient-a-handbook/9200000025777941/

https://www.tradebit.com/filedetail.php/278275234-love-quotient-a-handbook-for-successful

Monday 9 May 2016

Relationship Success Tip #2 - Remember to Love - Nicholas J Alexander















Remember to Love - Love Quotient - Relationship Success Tip #2

Remember all the wonderful reasons you fell in love, the chemistry and unbelievable feeling you felt when you first got together. 

Be careful with one another’s love. 

Being in love can be the most impactful and amazing feeling in our lives, it can stop us eating, it can make us ill, it can make us cry and do silly things, it can make us go against our better judgement, love is one of the most powerful emotions we have, it brings a sense of happiness and well-being that is hard to touch, the endorphins it creates are astounding. 

Don’t forget this; you’ll not realise how important the love is in your life until the day it is gone or you can no longer feel it or see it.

https://books.google.co.uk/books?id=tAlNCAAAQBAJ&dq=the+love+quotient+book&source=gbs_navlinks_s

http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/love-quotient-a-handbook-for-successful-relationships-nicholas-j-alexander/1118760492

https://www.bookdepository.com/Love-Quotient-Handbook-for-Successful-Relationships-Nicholas-J-Alexander/9781291732184

http://www.ebookshop.co.za/ebooks/1638483/Love-Quotient-A-Handbook-for-Successful-Relationships.html

http://www.lulu.com/shop/nicholas-j-alexander/love-quotient-a-handbook-for-successful-relationships/ebook/product-21443989.html

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Love-Quotient-Handbook-Successful-Relationships-ebook/dp/B00OY7SZ6G/ref=sr_1_4?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1462794552&sr=1-4&keywords=the+love+quotient

https://www.bol.com/nl/p/love-quotient-a-handbook/9200000025777941/

https://www.tradebit.com/filedetail.php/278275234-love-quotient-a-handbook-for-successful

Relationship Success Tip #1 - Keep on Kissing - Nicholas J Alexander














Keep on Kissing - Love Quotient - Relationship Success Tip #1

My guideline for successful relationships and a positive Love Quotient is to never underestimate the power of a kiss and the cuddle that goes with it, the way it heals and repairs; the way it brings you together, the way it joins you publicly and privately, the intimacy it shows, the loving gesture it communicates and the affection that results.